Adulting: it’s not just about paying bills and pretending to know how to cook. It’s also about realizing your social circle has shrunk somewhere between college and that last awkward office party. Remember those carefree days of easily making friends? Yeah, those seem a bit distant now, huh? Nothing to worry about, though, because making and keeping friends as an adult isn’t some mythical quest. Think of it like learning a new dance: can be a little awkward and off-beat at first, but totally doable with the right steps. And no, this isn’t your average friendship etiquette guide. We’re talking real-life tips and practical, mundane strategies to help you navigate the world of adult friendships.
Embrace your inner hobbyist
Remember when you were a kid and making friends was as simple as sharing toys? Recreate that magic, but tap into adult hobbies. Join a book club, sign up for a marathon, be part of a hiking group, or enroll in a pottery class. Shared interests are proven to be friendship superglue. And hey, don’t underestimate the power of online communities! Dive into online gaming, too! You’re sure to find folks who share your passion for virtual adventures and pursuits, like celebrating new friends during a lively game of online bingo. It’s a great way to bond over a shared activity, even if it’s digital.
Be the initiator
Yes, you! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being the first one to make a move. Waiting for someone else to invite you is like waiting for your toast to butter itself. Be the one to take initiative and suggest bonding over coffee, watching that new movie, or having a casual walk at the park! A simple check-in works wonders, and in fact, people love a good initiator because it shows you’re genuinely interested in making or keeping friendships.
Listen more, talk less
If you’re in the right headspace and a friend seems to be tied up in a thought knot, better to stay quiet and listen more to what they have to say. Being present for people and comforting them when they need it most is already proof that you’re willing to cultivate a genuine friendship. Regularly do friendship check-ins with your friends and see who needs a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on.
Consistency is key
Friendships are somewhat like plants. It needs consistent watering, or else it’ll wither and die. A simple “Hey, how are you?” text message already goes a long way. You know what they say: consistency is key. Don’t go around abandoning friendships you worked so hard to cultivate. It doesn’t have to involve grand gestures, just let your friends know you’re there for them even when you don’t get to hang around as much as you’d like to.
Embrace imperfection
We’re all a little weird sometimes, right? So, embrace it! Don’t let a little “red flag” affect your friendship. Maybe they’re just having an off day? Talk it out and work things together. In today’s age of cancel culture, be the friend who truly stays and acts as an accountability partner to whoever needs it. You’ll be surprised by how many people reciprocate this and do the same thing for you, when you most need it and least expect it.
Forgive and forget
We all make mistakes. If it’s not a grave mistake, don’t hold grudges against your friends. Learn to continuously forgive and move on from your issues. Plus, communication is key! If you want less disagreements and arguments, better communicate your feelings and intentions with one another.
Wrapping Up
So you see, adult friendships are definitely buildable! Hobbies spark connections, and deep conversations allow you to open up to one another. Embrace your quirks, forgive easily, and remember, small gestures count.
